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‘An Dains Fierm’ The Journey Has Fully Begun

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The most recent visit with my husband, who is an entrepreneur that comes home every 2 weeks for the past few years, has been quite fruitful.

After 15 years of intense dedication, hard work, a little bit of suffering, and a lot more determination, we (The Dains) have found and purchased land in Oregon and will be leaving in less than 2 weeks to see it for the first time.

This is very exciting for us! …You see, I have wanted a sustainable farm since before I was 8 years old. I even did a project on it in school. My mom still has it tucked away somewhere. I saw it a few years ago and it made me so delighted to see how eager I was to be a wonderful little girl on this beautiful planet. I didn’t, and don’t, want to be JUST good. I CHOOSE to be wonderful! (…sometimes…, let’s be honest – no one wants to have to be on all the time ; ) …I want to be above good, because I’m the type that is making up for any un-good I find along the way.

We’re going to take our family and my life experience of growing up in a solar household on 6 acres in the AZ mountains, moving every 2 years since I was 5, being a diy youga/dancer, living on small farms, rescuing and raising animals, training horses, going to public school and being homeschooled, attending some college, finding love (or it finding me), marrying young, having 3 amazing boys close together, healing from a triggered auto-immune disorder (due to obvious and immense anxiety and stress), deciding to push through all the hardships and focus on goals and the now, believing in myself and my family, learning through my own research and studying, and emerging the buttercornicus that I have come to jokingly refer to myself as (Laughter is one of my favorite medicines ; ).

In the next months and years, I will be sharing my family’s adventures in our journey to build our own sustainable farm.

An Dains Fierm” as we’ve been pondering to🤔 call it.

According to google translate, this is ‘The Dains Ranch’ in Irish-ish (The Dains version-we’re like that : )

My family and I are so excited to share our adventures. We have invested in a DJI spark, a DJI Mavic Pro Platinum, GoPro Hero 5 Black, along with Samsung Galaxy Note 8, IPhone 6s, and 6plus.

We’re working hard to learn every aspect of what we need to do. Like I’ve stated before, I use my iPhone 6 Plus for almost everything, especially the WordPress blogging, which I squeeze in whenever my world allows for it. To clarify, I’m a mom first, wife second, and entrepreneur third. This is how I keep myself prioritized for a happy me and happy family (what can I say? I’m a family first kinda-girl!)

I have wondered if my husband wishes he came first, being that If it weren’t for him, the kids wouldn’t even exist, but any mom out there knows: you can’t mess with a mothers love and sometimes spouses unwittingly challenge you to find out who you love the most – and as a partner – you want to be everything for someone (wether you admit it or not) if you seek or are in a relationship, it’s as natural as giving birth itself. You want your favorite version, right?

We know that the road ahead could be long and hard, but that’s all up to the attitude in which we embrace the adventure. We’re not noobies to the diy world. My husband has been a professional welder, electrician, roofer, custom woodworker, builder, lab tech, phlebotomist, EMT, Firefighter, farmer, truck driver, Entrepreneur: All in the past 20 years.

He’s got the skills for the both of us, but I am the yin to his yang. Everywhere he hasn’t had time to learn yet, I’ve seemed to naturally dabble in. I am the creatively chic girl next door that you didn’t know even lived there – haha.

My favorite things to do are usually by myself or with my family and friends. – so a family farm = Happy Holly!

I already have 3 start up business models that I’ll be working on for the property we purchased! I want my “jack of all trades” husband to pick what we work on first, because he’s so talented and we’re at our best when we encourage each other to use our intuition and stay true to ourselves. In doing so, it creates a go-with-the-flow relationship that we both deserve and each personally desires. We love being #dramafree, but life is anything but fully predictable, so let go of anything that’s holding you back, breathe in that good-ass-prana, accept yourself as you are, allow good things to flow to you, and check back soon.

Things happen fast around here…

#andainsfierm !

Do You Know Your Ultimate Desire For Contentment?

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I found that it makes me happiest if I keep my needs very basic and, if you are anything like me, you too desire a life of contentment.

-You’re powering through most days with an ultimate goal of self satisfaction and ever-lasting fulfillment at that rest point I hope you’re imagining in your head for the future (When you’re not living in the now, of course; ).

-That place you can’t wait to be. The one you get up in the morning for and go to bed re-evaluating if you can check any “to-do’s” off your list.

My husband and I work (some would argue: overwork) our butts off in pursuit of this very goal, broken down to its most basic form: Find an attainable position of peace for our family to experience some form of comfort and security-before we’re too old to enjoy it.

For us, this means figuring out OUR best guess of where we would be happiest, purchase property there, create a fully sustainable life, create, live, love, enjoy, share and spread how we decided to do it.

I’ve taken the past few years to study everything I ever wanted to online. I wrote a project about “There is No Harm in My Farm” when I was 8. The fact that it has taken so long for me to attain my dreams was because of self made limitations brought on by my society (the world only I, personally was subjected to) That’s the world that only I experienced and that only I have memories of. It’s the world that created who I am today. I learned my lessons. I grew. I accepted and embraced who I really am and she loves love.

It feels completely attainable. I am aware that there are unfortunately plenty of heart wrenching things going on, practically every moment (somewhere in the world), but I want my families very existence to counter that stuff. However we can.

I want to know that whatever I purchase or make may alleviate suffering somehow.

Did I grow organic (un-poisoned) flowers and other plants for local bees?

Maybe, I purchased something with a 100% compostable packaging.

Maybe, I didn’t do anything at all… Maybe I spent more time at home, not driving around or ordering anything to be delivered.

I have started to do more myself. Looking into what I could be doing on my own instead of a product.

We have to remember that product commercials are meant to sell what they are talking about, so hearing “Why” you need something is meant to convince you that you need it.

I frequently think of how basic our needs really are, and when all those needs are met for every individual… Now that would be one peaceful world 🌎✌🏻.

That’s all I have time for right now. The kids are waking up and if I don’t post this now, I will fill my day with so much fun and chores, I may not find it again until I’m too tired to use my iPhone’s keyboard.

Peace ✌🏻

-Holly

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Review Goals Regularly 

Posted by in Conversation Starters, Family, Inspiration, Life Hacks, News

I’ve been saying, for a few years now, that “This is the year! This is when all of our hard work rewards us with our goals!”

But the truth is, I know better.

As much as I want to be able to dictate when and where success will come, I know that luxury doesn’t happen on demand. 

I dream of being on my future-farm, able to sit in my office and get a few hours of un-interrupted writing done during daylight hours. That’s just not in the cards every day and that’s ok. Everyone deserves positive attention and guidance and I’m there for my children in that way. 

Since the new year, I have been practicing many new practices. One of which is learning how to manifest things using the power of positive thinking and using high vibrational frequencies to see if goals can be reached sooner. I’ll write more on this later, as today I’m just revisiting how well these manifesting practices are affecting my current life and situation. I will write whether or not they work at a later date. 

So, as much as I want to be an accomplished blogger, I recognize and realize that I will design, write blog posts, and books as much as I can until it opens up to do so more often.

After all, I am working on enjoying my children’s childhood, too! 

So, I am currently renouncing my stubborn ways and deciding to appreciate every moment I do get to work on what I want, when I want because, after all, that is my ultimate goal. To be able to do whatever I want when I want and I want that for everyone (as long as what you want does no harm to anyone or anything: )

Don’t worry! That usually means that I want to help those around me in any way I can without a negative impact. 

My children might interrupt me every few minutes on some days, but as they get older, they interrupt less and less, and I can sense and see that they really are doing well and becoming wonderful little human beings. 

We all enjoy excitedly talking about the entire family’s goals before bed each night and the family’s goals are great to discuss with the whole family, not just mom and dad deciding for the entire family, though there are times that is necessary, but not when you’re talking about goals. 

To let everyone speak up a bit about what they’re excited about in life is how we all start to connect or re-connect and connections are important your whole life, so why not cultivate an amazing relationship with your children from the start. 

Don’t get me wrong, bedtime still takes me way too long with three kids when I’m going solo, but the harder I have to work at life by myself, I get this sense that it’s adding something to a metaphorical piggy bank that will pay back in the future. 

That’s all for now. Have an awesome day!

-Holly 

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We Have A Dream

Posted by in Conversation Starters, Family

Hello!

Everyday my family and I talk about our goals and dreams and try to chip away at the list of things necessary to get me and my family closer to them. My husband is working towards our shared dream every time he leaves the comfort of our home and has to go work for weeks on end just to provide for us.

We were smart enough to learn that being entrepreneurs was in our best interest. Now that we know that, we just keep learning everything we don’t already know about how to complete our goals. Sounds like obvious stuff, right?

Well, it’s not that easy when you’re goals involve buying a large piece of land and it’s not in our plan to settle for a tiny lot just because that’s all we can afford. So ten years, 3 babies, 3 dogs, 2 cars, 1 motorcycle, and no land later, we’re still trucking along towards the perfect situation.  (I know we put the cart before the horse, but I still feel like that shouldn’t mean we can’t make it ahead just because inflation rises faster than wages.)

And if you’re thinking: Sell everything and buy land, we’ve been doing that for the last 4 years.  No joke! Every time we’ve saved ANY money something came along that takes just about the same amount away. Like there was an invisible message written in the sky above us that said “They have extra. Take it!” Well no more!

Since we run our own business and our expenses are all our own, we know that we haven’t been making any profit for the past few years. Since we don’t want to take out any loans, we are just paying for most things as we go.

This is great and horrible: We make the money. We spend the money. It goes towards bills or expanding the business or something that works towards a goal so that we may hope to make more money. Then it’s gone and we literally have to wait until we make more money.

So, I’m trying to follow the rules of the successful places that give their tips to do this or do that, to be successful in life, blogging, saving, penny pinching, etc. I plan on posting about what works on here so I can share the love. 

I do worry sometimes that I’m too late. Bloggers gotta blog and I’m in a see of millions trying to be seen who put way more time into it than me. I have busy days, pretty much everyday. Even my husband usually has to wait his turn for my attention whenever he is home because I do so much myself so that we can save money.

To get an idea of some of the things I do myself most of the time. This includes, but is not limited to cooking and baking from scratch (can we say bulk food ;), kid raising, cleaning, laundry, outings, shopping (one of my faves! Hey, I’m still girly and I only like to buy sustainable, ethical, humane, good for the planet stuff) crafts, most kinds of repairs, homemade soaps and cleaners, toothpaste, face and hair creams and masks, healing through food, essential oils, and so on. 

During the summer, life is amazing because it’s warm and there is so much to do. During the winter, ehh…. not so amazing, unless we’re out on an adventure and we’re not big fans of cold weather so winter adventures are kept at a minimum.

Don’t get me wrong. We do a lot of fun stuff. Play cards, board games, playstations, computers, light sabers, dinosaurs, learn about the cosmos, watch Planet Earth, build forts, make home movies, bake/cook, teach, fly drones, play music, go on walks, and so on. But our dreams, ten years in, are getting closer than ever before and I just want to push us onto that life raft and yell “We made it!”

Are you working on any dreams right now? If so, what have you found to be most helpful in attaining them? Let us know in the comments below!

Have a wonderful day,

-Holly

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Why Jim Carrey is an Inspiration

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I recently watched this great video about Jim Carrey and his spirituality, which reminded me that one of my favorite movies of all time is “Ace Ventura”, both of them. It has affected me. I love being silly. I have mucho appreciation for Mr. Carrey! I always thought that If I ever made a movie it would be named Grace Ventura. Al-ri-high-ty-then! Just kidding 😉

Instead of aspiring to become a rich and famous comedian/actress and having a way to take care of all my own wants and needs, I became an animal whisperer-like person whose parents moved all over America with the Forest Service. This made it so that I ended up connecting pretty well with all of the family pets. At the age of 8, I got my very own pet, which was a miniature dachshund named Princess Pip Squeak. For the record, I did not like this name, but my parent’s got her for me for my birthday, so my dad got the last word on that one. He even registered her as an AKC with that name. We called her Pip, she was the cutest doxie you’d ever seen and actually grew up to be quite bitchy. Excuse the language, but I mean that in both meanings of the word. She was my dog and as she grew out of puppy-dom, she knew my parents were the alpha’s in our house so she only listened to them. I tried every trick in the book at 8 to teach her to respect me, but I failed miserably.

We were more like siblings than an alpha and omega. She was sure she was the Alpha, ppff, growled at me and we’d bicker with each other all the time, but I begrudgingly walked her, fed her, watered her, kept her as my pet and she slept with me every night for another eight years (hence why she thought I was her slave…). I can’t let you think she was a bad dog, because she had her amazing moments. My family used to be quite the bickerers and she cured that. Every time we fought she would squeak, squeal, and bark until we stopped. It seemed to work.  I only realized a few years back what a lesson Pip was for me and that’s a topic for a different post. I finally earned her respect after I had my first child at 21 which ended up feeling quite comical when I brought my first baby boy home and she was sooo sweet to me.

Since “Ace Ventura”, I’ve really appreciated some of Jim’s other movies, like “Bruce Almighty” and “Yes! Man”. You can watch the video below.

Thanks for checking in,

-Holly





To learn more about Jim Carrey on Wikipedia Here.

 Thank you The Journey of Purpose for that one.




Idaho Snow Tubing Adventure

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Hello!

Since I was fortunate enough to get a Go Pro Hero 5 Black as an early holiday gift, I got to test it out when the whole fam went snow tubing at a little tubing resort outside of Boise, ID.
This was my first time ever messing with a Go Pro or their apps, so let me know what you think.

Thanks!





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