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My Truth About Blogging

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Bloggy Bloggerton…

…I am not.

To clarify: I want to blog. I just have a lot to do. We just moved all of our belongings into storage. Bought an RV while raising 3 kids and 3 dogs(wouldn’t have it any other way-wait till I finally have my farm- Can we say animal rescue!!!) In order to help my parents in recovery from my dad’s cancer treatments.

Since we have arrived at my parents house in Arizona, it has been very rewarding, yet exhausting. I blog whenever I can, from my iPhone 6 Plus. (I don’t recommend this method…)

It’s a big phone. Kinda awkward to use for long periods of time and it gets hot pretty fast.

Who knows what it’s doing to my body…

I decided to blog about all this because I kept coming up with reasons for why I’m too busy to “do the work” (of running a blog).

I was legitimately and appropriately managing my time for what was most important. In my head it’s about like this:

“-Are the children taken care of? Have the dogs been taken care of? How’s grandpa? Time to cook. Let’s help grandma in the garden. Let’s clean up. What’s Photosynthesis? Let’s look that up to explain it best. You want to color? Swim time! Watch me on the trampoline! Let’s check the mail. Time to pay the bills, and so on and so forth. ”

..The usual for me.

I love it! My life is unlike any person I’ve ever met and I look forward to it staying that way. I used to worry constantly and let people’s expectations of me dictate my actions and I was a definite people-pleaser.

I will always be a bit of a people-pleaser… because it pleases me to please people : )

… Just no more self sacrificing on an unnecessary level. As a mother. Self sacrificing is part of the gig. In my experience, you’re not doing it right if you don’t have occasional pangs of guilt or worry bitch-slapping ya back to reality. I am aware that I go above and beyond for my loves. Whoever they may be. If I love you. You will know it and you will like it 😘

-It’s the people pleaser in me.

But I don’t have limitless energy, and when I run out of steam and everyone is like “Aww, you used up all Holly’s energy 😔😔😔to everyone else.

I have found that listening to my intuition above all works out best. I draw from 32 years of life experience and 10 years in the research and development phase.

I relieved myself of a lot of excess duties when I realized just how much people-pleasing I had gotten to myself into and when I learned how to take a step back from it, breathe, and allow myself to set whatever boundary that needed to be placed. My true self seemed to take shape when I was fairly young because not much had to change.

I essentially alleviated decades of self-inflicted guilt and stress by acknowledging and letting go of the expectations I was able to see were from others and not me.

– I erased all personal and internal doubt when I got consistent confirmation that listening to my intuition gave me my desired outcome in all situations.

– Good thing I don’t use it ferr evil – #amiright ?!

(Jk. Because you get whatever you put out and when I used to be just the tiniest bit vengeful as a young child – and rightfully so – “karma” would always kick my ass. I learned this very early on in my life.)

I am more aware of what I should be paying attention to. I’m able to argue with others and not get upset, unlike in the past. I am always aiming to be completely rational and honest. I’m able to think to the end to whatever desired outcome works best for everyone and proceed with just enough forethought to avoid the usual pitfalls that can strike in everyday life.

(I am not saying I don’t slip up ever, but I allow time for rest and I aim to stay in a continuous state of my natural flow. Practically just observing others. Never reacting. Always encouraging. Incorporating fitness in whatever task I take on because in all honesty, I may not have time to cut out a work out. I keep my flow best while using my intuition.)

This is how I am taking my family “The Great Dains Dynamite Dynamic Dynasty” to wherever we want to go!

-haha!

Well, I digress.

Thanks for stopping by and have an awesome day : )

– Holly

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Holly’s Favorite Homemade Ranch Recipe

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Makes about 1½ cups

Ingredients

1 cup organic mayonnaise of choice (I use Trader Joe’s or another store brand organic mayonnaise)

1 tablespoon raw apple cider vinegar (probiotics!)

1 tablespoon unsweetened plain nut milk or water (I use water)

1 small garlic clove finely minced or pressed, OR ¾ teaspoon granulated garlic powder

1 teaspoon onion powder

2 teaspoons dried parsley

2 teaspoons fresh chopped dill

2 teaspoons fresh chopped chives

¼ teaspoon sea salt

dash fresh ground black pepper, or to taste

Prep fun:

Stir all ingredients together then transfer to an airtight glass container to store in the refrigerator—a Mason jar works perfectly.

Add more or less unsweetened plain nut milk or water to your desired consistency. Let it sit for at least 30 minutes for the flavors to develop—it’s even better the next day. It will keep for about a week, so halve or double the recipe if needed.

This recipe is adapted from Mind Body Green‘s website for Vegan Ranch Dressing.

So simple! Give it a try and let me know how it goes below!

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Small Victories in Rio Verde Foothills- Arizona

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I have lived in Northern Scottsdale on and off since 2002. I’ve lost count how many times, actually. Aside from one winter spent in Palm Desert, California, Scottsdale has been my go-to winter location because my family owns property there.

However, this snow season, sitting under the Arizona sun was brought on for a new reason. Not just to evade the lower temperatures (though it is a major plus). This years reason is one that no one plans for.

My father has just finished cancer treatments of radiation and chemotherapy for a cancerous growth near his tongue. I wasn’t extremely involved in the decision making process, but of course I had my own ideas of how I thought intense chemo might go for him. I’ve even worked as a Unit Secretary in an Emergency Room. I had seen enough to prepare me, but no amount of knowledge or prep can keep your insides from voicing your own opinion, secretly telling yourself everything you want to hear about how you would do it if it was you, wondering how you can help without causing more work. Hoping you actually have a positive effect on the situation. Pushing through the fatigue because there is no one else for the job. A sense of carrying on as so much changes in hopes to hold on to some sense of personal normalcy.

If I heard my mother correctly, my dad stopped eating January 9. His throat was so severely damaged from his treatments that it disabled his throat muscles completely. He is doing special motions that his speech therapist taught him to try and build the muscles back up.

It is now March 10 and I am happy to report that my dad had his first bite of food in however many days that is!

Here’s to the small victories!!

Have an amazing night!

-Holly

A Married Mother Of Three’s Take On Valentines Day

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Hello,

Since I approach my life a bit differently than most, people randomly ask me what my take on certain things is, like commercialized holidays.

Today being February 14, 2017 or Valentines Day, V-Day, ❤️-Day, etc. I found it appropriate to answer this question. 

My personal belief is that no holiday really matters. If you’re feeling flush with fat stacks of money spilling over, I can understand wanting to splurge on your loved ones, otherwise, just keep reminding the people you love and care about that you love them way more than once a year. 

It can be so simple and free (or almost). If you aren’t busy and your loved one is, maybe make a meal for them as a surprise or do something else you know they’re bound to enjoy. After all, you’re together because you bonded over something, right?

If you’re both busy, lighten up and plan to celebrate when you can, in a way that is special to each of you. 

Ultimately, at the end of the day, all that matters to me is that you didn’t give me a negative memory. It is kind of that simple. 

I’m comfortable in my skin and I want people to be free to focus on themselves. I am not influenced by any date unless it is directly special to me or someone I love. 

We celebrate what is important for us as individuals and as a family. I love spreading love, I just don’t wait for a holiday to do it. 

If you can try to get and/or give someone a happy, authentic, positive memory on any day… 

Well then, those are the kinds of memories people cherish that last forever. 

-Holly

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