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Do You Know Your Ultimate Desire For Contentment?

Posted by Littlehollyopal in Conversation Starters, Family, Inspiration

I found that it makes me happiest if I keep my needs very basic and, if you are anything like me, you too desire a life of contentment.

-You’re powering through most days with an ultimate goal of self satisfaction and ever-lasting fulfillment at that rest point I hope you’re imagining in your head for the future (When you’re not living in the now, of course; ).

-That place you can’t wait to be. The one you get up in the morning for and go to bed re-evaluating if you can check any “to-do’s” off your list.

My husband and I work (some would argue: overwork) our butts off in pursuit of this very goal, broken down to its most basic form: Find an attainable position of peace for our family to experience some form of comfort and security-before we’re too old to enjoy it.

For us, this means figuring out OUR best guess of where we would be happiest, purchase property there, create a fully sustainable life, create, live, love, enjoy, share and spread how we decided to do it.

I’ve taken the past few years to study everything I ever wanted to online. I wrote a project about “There is No Harm in My Farm” when I was 8. The fact that it has taken so long for me to attain my dreams was because of self made limitations brought on by my society (the world only I, personally was subjected to) That’s the world that only I experienced and that only I have memories of. It’s the world that created who I am today. I learned my lessons. I grew. I accepted and embraced who I really am and she loves love.

It feels completely attainable. I am aware that there are unfortunately plenty of heart wrenching things going on, practically every moment (somewhere in the world), but I want my families very existence to counter that stuff. However we can.

I want to know that whatever I purchase or make may alleviate suffering somehow.

Did I grow organic (un-poisoned) flowers and other plants for local bees?

Maybe, I purchased something with a 100% compostable packaging.

Maybe, I didn’t do anything at all… Maybe I spent more time at home, not driving around or ordering anything to be delivered.

I have started to do more myself. Looking into what I could be doing on my own instead of a product.

We have to remember that product commercials are meant to sell what they are talking about, so hearing “Why” you need something is meant to convince you that you need it.

I frequently think of how basic our needs really are, and when all those needs are met for every individual… Now that would be one peaceful world 🌎✌🏻.

That’s all I have time for right now. The kids are waking up and if I don’t post this now, I will fill my day with so much fun and chores, I may not find it again until I’m too tired to use my iPhone’s keyboard.

Peace ✌🏻

-Holly

Apr.13

Review Goals Regularly

Posted by Littlehollyopal in Conversation Starters, Family, Inspiration, Life Hacks, News

I’ve been saying, for a few years now, that “This is the year! This is when all of our hard work rewards us with our goals!”

But the truth is, I know better.

As much as I want to be able to dictate when and where success will come, I know that luxury doesn’t happen on demand.

I dream of being on my future-farm, able to sit in my office and get a few hours of un-interrupted writing done during daylight hours. That’s just not in the cards every day and that’s ok. Everyone deserves positive attention and guidance and I’m there for my children in that way.

Since the new year, I have been practicing many new practices. One of which is learning how to manifest things using the power of positive thinking and using high vibrational frequencies to see if goals can be reached sooner. I’ll write more on this later, as today I’m just revisiting how well these manifesting practices are affecting my current life and situation. I will write whether or not they work at a later date.

So, as much as I want to be an accomplished blogger, I recognize and realize that I will design, write blog posts, and books as much as I can until it opens up to do so more often.

After all, I am working on enjoying my children’s childhood, too!

So, I am currently renouncing my stubborn ways and deciding to appreciate every moment I do get to work on what I want, when I want because, after all, that is my ultimate goal. To be able to do whatever I want when I want and I want that for everyone (as long as what you want does no harm to anyone or anything: )

Don’t worry! That usually means that I want to help those around me in any way I can without a negative impact.

My children might interrupt me every few minutes on some days, but as they get older, they interrupt less and less, and I can sense and see that they really are doing well and becoming wonderful little human beings.

We all enjoy excitedly talking about the entire family’s goals before bed each night and the family’s goals are great to discuss with the whole family, not just mom and dad deciding for the entire family, though there are times that is necessary, but not when you’re talking about goals.

To let everyone speak up a bit about what they’re excited about in life is how we all start to connect or re-connect and connections are important your whole life, so why not cultivate an amazing relationship with your children from the start.

Don’t get me wrong, bedtime still takes me way too long with three kids when I’m going solo, but the harder I have to work at life by myself, I get this sense that it’s adding something to a metaphorical piggy bank that will pay back in the future.

That’s all for now. Have an awesome day!

-Holly

May.08

We Have A Dream

Posted by Littlehollyopal in Conversation Starters, Family

Hello!

Everyday my family and I talk about our goals and dreams and try to chip away at the list of things necessary to get me and my family closer to them. My husband is working towards our shared dream every time he leaves the comfort of our home and has to go work for weeks on end just to provide for us.

We were smart enough to learn that being entrepreneurs was in our best interest. Now that we know that, we just keep learning everything we don’t already know about how to complete our goals. Sounds like obvious stuff, right?

Well, it’s not that easy when you’re goals involve buying a large piece of land and it’s not in our plan to settle for a tiny lot just because that’s all we can afford. So ten years, 3 babies, 3 dogs, 2 cars, 1 motorcycle, and no land later, we’re still trucking along towards the perfect situation. (I know we put the cart before the horse, but I still feel like that shouldn’t mean we can’t make it ahead just because inflation rises faster than wages.)

And if you’re thinking: Sell everything and buy land, we’ve been doing that for the last 4 years. No joke! Every time we’ve saved ANY money something came along that takes just about the same amount away. Like there was an invisible message written in the sky above us that said “They have extra. Take it!” Well no more!

Since we run our own business and our expenses are all our own, we know that we haven’t been making any profit for the past few years. Since we don’t want to take out any loans, we are just paying for most things as we go.

This is great and horrible: We make the money. We spend the money. It goes towards bills or expanding the business or something that works towards a goal so that we may hope to make more money. Then it’s gone and we literally have to wait until we make more money.

So, I’m trying to follow the rules of the successful places that give their tips to do this or do that, to be successful in life, blogging, saving, penny pinching, etc. I plan on posting about what works on here so I can share the love.

I do worry sometimes that I’m too late. Bloggers gotta blog and I’m in a see of millions trying to be seen who put way more time into it than me. I have busy days, pretty much everyday. Even my husband usually has to wait his turn for my attention whenever he is home because I do so much myself so that we can save money.

To get an idea of some of the things I do myself most of the time. This includes, but is not limited to cooking and baking from scratch (can we say bulk food ;), kid raising, cleaning, laundry, outings, shopping (one of my faves! Hey, I’m still girly and I only like to buy sustainable, ethical, humane, good for the planet stuff) crafts, most kinds of repairs, homemade soaps and cleaners, toothpaste, face and hair creams and masks, healing through food, essential oils, and so on.

During the summer, life is amazing because it’s warm and there is so much to do. During the winter, ehh…. not so amazing, unless we’re out on an adventure and we’re not big fans of cold weather so winter adventures are kept at a minimum.

Don’t get me wrong. We do a lot of fun stuff. Play cards, board games, playstations, computers, light sabers, dinosaurs, learn about the cosmos, watch Planet Earth, build forts, make home movies, bake/cook, teach, fly drones, play music, go on walks, and so on. But our dreams, ten years in, are getting closer than ever before and I just want to push us onto that life raft and yell “We made it!”

Are you working on any dreams right now? If so, what have you found to be most helpful in attaining them? Let us know in the comments below!

Have a wonderful day,

-Holly

Feb.17

Happy New Year!

Posted by Littlehollyopal in Family, News

Hello 2017,

I am so excited for the year ahead. We have big plans this year and look forward to sharing it with you all. Some of those plans include continuing to build this site and its content. That will be my most challenging aspect of the year, incorporating more working (blogging) into my already long work(momming) day. When you’re a mother of three kids, especially high intensity boys, then you’ve got to get your goals and get going, otherwise someone grabs you and sends you on their mission they have for you. (Love you boys…) I’ve come up with the ideas for the pages and I really want to know what you think. This is something I’ve wanted to do for years. I was a blogger a few years back and really enjoyed it, but my kids were so young and life outside blogging got too demanding to keep track of.

If you don’t know what it’s like to have kids, let alone, 3 boys, let me give you a little insight. I wake up each morning around 5:30-6 a.m., excited for the day ahead, I ponder to myself… “How long do I have before anyone else wakes up?” about that time my youngest, Aiden, wakes up. Everyday.After about an hour of just mommy and Aiden, my other 2 wake up and then it’s the breakfast dash. I closely relate it to Parana’s feeding if we’re having cereal, but if we’re going with “Egg and a Hogle” then it’s a whole different adventure. It’s more like the seagull’s from Finding Nemo “Mine. Mine. Mine.” Not to give the impression that they don’t share well, but they definitely are competitive at times. After breakfast we try to discuss our goals to accomplish for that week or that day. This is another big goal for 2017. Really focusing on working goals that have tangible rewards. It’s been 10 years since my first pregnancy and 6 years since my last. I have fully potty trained kids, which is HUGE! and now I finally feel like my days are becoming my own. When I’m in the thick of momming and my days are not my own it feels like I’ve stepped outside my mind and I put my body on loan to the little souls that need it for all their own needs. When I just had my first son, i didn’t understand how easy I had it. Then I had my second son and thought, hey this is a piece of cake, I’ll have another. I thought it would be a girl, but hey, I love all my boys and couldn’t imagine my days without them. What i didn’t realize was what I was really getting myself into. I thought that I just had to be there and that would be enough, but if you want to be successful at momming then you need to look at the BIG picture and if you look at it enough like I did you see that if you can’t afford all the luxuries and intricacies that being wealthy and having your own version of a helpful tribe would, then it all falls on whoever is taking care of your children. And for me, that’s me and my family. It used to only be me and my husband, then it was just me, and in the past few years everyone has been slowly coming around, realizing “Hey, you’ve got something amazing here.” If I’m grocery shopping, I buy all organic local ingredients. I’m a co-owner at the local CO-OP and try to make almost everything from scratch. I’m a soft believer in the 80/20 rules in life. I don’t believe anything too strongly because the opposite of crazy is crazy, and I’m really into healing the whole body and soul, but I don’t walk around preaching smelling like patchouli (…not because I don’t like it, but I don’t, lol, and I don’t want to smell like it, no offense to anyone who enjoys it 😉

This year I plan to share how I make this confusing jigsaw puzzle of life make a little bit more sense to me. I have shortened healing time when my children suffer from illnesses, regrown enamel and gums, cured my own autoimmune/thyroid disorder I was suffering from due to depression, working on healing my torn rotator-cuff with collagen, making my own homemade beauty products and tips, sharing great unique family recipes, and anything else that pops up that seems worthy of sharing.

Thank you for reading and have a wonderful 2017!

-Holly

Jan.04